Tonse leadership & lovers' mind games

AN OPINION BY ROSE MILANZI

Malawi: Communication is the most important factor in a relationship, but do not tell your lover the things that caused you and the one before him/her to go sideways at the beginning of the relationship.

Telling your current partner things your ex never did is one step toward burying yourself in a fantasy that will never come true.

Things will be sweet at the beginning of the relationship because he/she will feed you dreams based on your expectations, and then he/she will lead you to the fantasy of you believing things will be better once you start dating.

That is a well-played soccer game, my dear; once you step into the dating scene after a month of showering you with love and promises of how you want to be treated, my sister/brother, you will experience a wide range of emotions, and you will have no one to blame but yourself.

Before you enter into a relationship, carefully consider your options, understand what you're getting yourself into, know your worth, and know who you truly are. Ask yourself if you are ready for the next step, if you are patient enough to wait, and if you know your partner.

Remember that if the promises seem too good to be true and the actions appear to be very promising, you have already disclosed all of your weaknesses as well as your ex's weaknesses. You are feeding them the promises they made. And the heartbreak, pain, and suffering will all be on you.

Do not forget how the Tonse Leadership came to be; they knew our flaws, they knew our cries, and they led us on, and we put them in power.

They made promises; can we say we aren't patient enough or have we fallen in love too quickly and forgotten the pains of a familiar lover who comes with the words?